I spent many years trying to navigate online dating apps and websites, so I know first hand what it’s like. I remember how frustrating it was not knowing what I was doing wrong, worrying something was wrong with me, and being scared that I’d never have the relationship I longed for.

While my journey was filled with soul-crushing disappointments, rejections and pain, I learned a lot along the way:

First of all, I learned that nothing was wrong with me. And I’ve since learned nothing is wrong with any of us, including you. That’s not why you’re single, and it wasn’t why I was single either. There are things you’re doing to keep yourself stuck, but the person you are is enough as you are. Once you learn to get out of your own way, you’ll find the love you long for, just like I did. 

Second, I learned how to make online dating sites and apps work for me, instead of against me. I learned how to love myself and to act in ways that reflected my self-worth. I began to expect others to treat me with the worthiness I knew I deserved, and when they didn’t it was a clear red flag.

 I learned that there was a LOT I didn’t know. And that’s been true with every single person I’ve helped find a long-term relationship. That’s one of the biggest reasons it’s important to get help if you’re single and struggling. I wish I had someone like the person I am now helping me back when I was single, because I wouldn’t have had to figure it all out the hard way, and I would have met the right person much sooner (and with fewer scars).

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The combination of my dating journey and my professional studies helped me to eventually understand the online dating world, how relationships develop, and how to maintain them. And once I had the knowledge and skills I needed, I took control of my dating life and everything began to change.

I could spot emotionally unavailable men from a mile away, and I had no time for them. I stopped wasting time with the wrong men so I could find the right one sooner. And that’s exactly what happened. 

Once I was armed with the right knowledge, tools, and self-love, I met the man who is now my husband. And we are living happily ever after….at the beach...with our daughter and four pets!

For over a decade in my private practice, I’ve been helping people have healthy, loving relationships. Now, through Caitlin’s Couch, I help badass single womxn everywhere take control of their dating journeys, find the right man, and develop a relationship with a strong foundation. When you find the right person and you’re both emotionally available, you can build a strong foundation that can last a lifetime. 

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The problem is, most of the dating advice out there, focuses on helping womxn get men to want them, chase them, and commit to them. And I know that sounds empowering and a relief from what you’ve been dealing with if you’ve been dating for a while. But that dating advice doesn’t teach womxn about real connection and relational skills. And without that knowledge and those skills, the relationship is not likely to last.

And the thing is, you could learn to play the game. You could try to learn how to be irresistible to men, and get them to chase you, etc. But I don’t want you to just “get” a guy. I don’t want men to just want you. I want you to get into a life-altering, loving, supportive relationship that lasts a lifetime. And that’s very different from the self-esteem boost you get when you feel wanted. 

I don’t want you to end up divorced later on when you get tired of playing the games and need real intimacy, love and partnership…..

I want you to heal from old wounds that make you feel unworthy, so you can receive the love you long for….

I want you to learn how to set boundaries, so you don’t end up exhausted and resentful, ready to separate and staring back at all the red flags you ignored along the way...

I want you to learn how to foster deep connection, which will keep your relationship alive and intimate for life.