I spent many years trying to navigate online dating apps and websites, so I know first hand what it’s like. I remember how frustrating it was not knowing what I was doing wrong, worrying something was wrong with me, and being scared that I’d never have the relationship I longed for.
While my journey was filled with soul-crushing disappointments, rejections and pain, I learned a lot along the way:
First of all, I learned that nothing was wrong with me. And I’ve since learned nothing is wrong with any of us, including you. That’s not why you’re single, and it wasn’t why I was single either. There are things you’re doing to keep yourself stuck, but the person you are is enough as you are. Once you learn to get out of your own way, you’ll find the love you long for, just like I did.
Second, I learned how to make online dating sites and apps work for me, instead of against me. I learned how to love myself and to act in ways that reflected my self-worth. I began to expect others to treat me with the worthiness I knew I deserved, and when they didn’t it was a clear red flag.
I learned that there was a LOT I didn’t know. And that’s been true with every single person I’ve helped find a long-term relationship. That’s one of the biggest reasons it’s important to get help if you’re single and struggling. I wish I had someone like the person I am now helping me back when I was single, because I wouldn’t have had to figure it all out the hard way, and I would have met the right person much sooner (and with fewer scars).
The combination of my dating journey and my professional studies helped me to eventually understand the online dating world, how relationships develop, and how to maintain them. And once I had the knowledge and skills I needed, I took control of my dating life and everything began to change.
I could spot emotionally unavailable men from a mile away, and I had no time for them. I stopped wasting time with the wrong men so I could find the right one sooner. And that’s exactly what happened.
Once I was armed with the right knowledge, tools, and self-love, I met the man who is now my husband. And we are living happily ever after….at the beach...with our daughter and four pets!
For over a decade in my private practice, I’ve been helping people have healthy, loving relationships. Now, through Caitlin’s Couch, I help badass single womxn everywhere take control of their dating journeys, find the right man, and develop a relationship with a strong foundation. When you find the right person and you’re both emotionally available, you can build a strong foundation that can last a lifetime.
The problem is, most of the dating advice out there, focuses on helping womxn get men to want them, chase them, and commit to them. And I know that sounds empowering and a relief from what you’ve been dealing with if you’ve been dating for a while. But that dating advice doesn’t teach womxn about real connection and relational skills. And without that knowledge and those skills, the relationship is not likely to last.
And the thing is, you could learn to play the game. You could try to learn how to be irresistible to men, and get them to chase you, etc. But I don’t want you to just “get” a guy. I don’t want men to just want you. I want you to get into a life-altering, loving, supportive relationship that lasts a lifetime. And that’s very different from the self-esteem boost you get when you feel wanted.
I don’t want you to end up divorced later on when you get tired of playing the games and need real intimacy, love and partnership…..
I want you to heal from old wounds that make you feel unworthy, so you can receive the love you long for….
I want you to learn how to set boundaries, so you don’t end up exhausted and resentful, ready to separate and staring back at all the red flags you ignored along the way...
I want you to learn how to foster deep connection, which will keep your relationship alive and intimate for life.
I want you to learn how to be relational from the beginning, so you get into a relationship that brings you more joy than you ever thought possible.
And I promise you, it IS possible for you. And I can help you get there.
Hi, I’m Caitlin Cantor. I am an Individual, Couples, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. I am also a Certified Gestalt Therapist, Psychology Today’s Modern Sex Blogger, sought after speaker, Relationship Expert & Sexpert.
I have private practices in both Philadelphia, PA & Margate, NJ, where I see individuals and couples for therapy and coaching. Online therapy and coaching services are also available.
I earned my Sex Therapy Certification through the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT), which requires rigorous education and training in treating issues related to relationships, sex, and sexuality.
I earned my Certification in Gestalt Therapy at The Gestalt Therapy Institute of Philadelphia. Gestalt Therapy is a powerful relational, mind-body, experiential approach to therapy. To be certified in Gestalt Therapy, I dedicated many years of studying and practicing this approach to therapy, and it required me to experience it for years as well.
As a result of my intense training in issues pertaining to both sex and relationships, I am uniquely qualified to work with a wide range of dating, relational and sexual concerns.
I use an eclectic approach to therapy and coaching, which includes: Gestalt Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Experiential Therapies, Solution-Focused Therapy, Sex Therapy, Systemic Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapies (CBT). I also use mindfulness-based techniques, and I help people strengthen their mind-body connection.
My private practice is always full, and with a waiting list a mile long, I knew I needed to find a way to help more people. That's why I created Caitlin's Couch, The Empowerment Lab, my “virtual couch,” that enables me to bring my knowledge & skills to everyone. I am extremely passionate about empowering womxn, so I decided to focus my virtual couch on helping single womxn learn how to heal, date, and get into an incredible, healthy relationship. I know how it feels to be single and stuck, and it is one of my greatest joys to show other badass single womxn the way forward so they don’t have to figure it out the hard way like I did.
If you're ready to take ownership of your life and to do the work to create the future you dream of, schedule a discovery call today. I look forward to speaking to you soon!
I am certified in Gestalt Therapy, a relational, mind-body, experiential approach to therapy and coaching, which required not only years of study and practice, but also experiencing the therapeutic approach myself for over 3 years.
Gestalt theory teaches us that we exist relationally and that everything is co-created. It teaches us how to create connection versus disconnection and how to give ourselves permission to be who we are. Gestalt theory gives us permission to change as well, and shows us the way forward. It’s the opposite of limiting. Gestaltists look at the world in a way that’s flexible and open.
One of the reasons Gestalt theory is so powerful is because it’s experiential. The relationship with the therapist or coach becomes a surrogate relationship in which the client can heal. Clients can explore who they are by being in a relationship as opposed to simply talking about relationships.
Licences & Credentials
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in Pennsylvania and New Jersey
AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists)
Certified Gestalt Therapist, The Gestalt Therapy Training Institute of Philadelphia
Member of the Pennsylvania Society for Clinical Social Work (PSCSW)
Member of the National Association of Social Workers (NASW)
Certificate in Sex Therapy from Council for Relationships
Certified Divorce Mediator; Conflict Resolution Training
Founder of Sex Therapy in The City, LLC
Founder and CEO of Caitlin’s Couch, LLC