Couples often come to therapy in a state of disconnection and pain. They aren’t sure how to reconnect, forgive each other, understand each other, and how to feel understood by the other person. In therapy, couples begin to turn toward each other; they start taking steps that promote closeness instead of continuing to move further apart.
Over time, they can build a relationship that feels safe, and in which they feel accepted, seen, heard, and loved.
In Couples Therapy, couples learn new communication skills, new language, and a new way of being together. People gain a better understanding of themselves as individuals and of themselves in their relationships. Both partners learn to take ownership for their part in maintaining the current relational system which is not working for them. Then, both partners learn how to participate in the relationship differently, so the system begins to change, and the relationship becomes one that feels healthy and rewarding.
Through our work together, couples learn to communicate in a way that leads to deeper connection, rather than more distance. Couples learn how to have hard conversations that end up in resolution, rather than in explosive fights that cause more damage. Couples learn how to communicate their feelings and ask for what they need, rather than hinting and hoping the other figures it out. Couples are able to deal with difficult issues pertaining to sex and pleasure in a safe and supportive environment. And overall, I help couples manage their differences so they can move on in a healthy, connected way.
Both my relational training and my training in sex therapy give me unique, precious skills, that I use to help couples heal from past wounds, and find their way back to each other. Couples therapy is an opportunity for couples to strengthen their connection, and to create a firm relational foundation that can withstand the ups and downs of life.