I believe wholeheartedly in the need to water and feed my relationship to keep our connection strong and our sex life hot. In our relationship, we prioritize date nights. Date nights are our way of creating space in our lives to nourish our connection. We put effort into our relationship, and we reap the rewards of that effort with a loving, mostly easy relationship.
Pre-COVID, we had our date nights down: sushi, drinks, shows, movies, restaurants, etc. When COVID hit, we spent several months without real date nights waiting for the quarantine to end. When it became clear this is going to be the way things are for a while, we had to get creative.
We’ve had some awesome date nights recently that nourished our connection and allowed us to stay safe and quarantined. Here are some of my favs:
Whiskey tasting (or whatever you enjoy) at home. If you like whiskey tastings, tequila tastings, or other tastings, you can now do them from home through this company: Flaviar. I have no affiliation with them. I bought a membership for my husband for Father’s Day, and it turned out to be a great way to have a date night! They send you three tasting bottles of your alcohol of choice, with tasting notes, cards, and everything you need in order to create the experience from home. Shut off your phones and the TV and enjoy the exploration together! If you don’t drink, you can substitute alcohol with ice cream, olive oils & bread, coffee, or whatever you enjoy!
Intimate dinner date at home. Have a fancy at-home dinner date (candles, hair done, sexy clothes). Make it romantic. Make it special. Pretend you recently met and you’re excited to woo each other. This is your chance to talk, flirt, and be seductive. Seek to impress your partner. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together--you still have to work to impress each other if you want to keep your relationship strong for the long haul.
Acro Yoga. Ok, this may not sound sexy, but it’s so much fun that I had to include it. If you’re new to this, do the most basic stuff! We did this and it was beyond hilarious. We fell a lot more than we stuck any poses, so if you have any issues with your body that would make that unsafe, don’t do it. For us, it was playful, fun, and funny. If you or your partner tend to be on the reserved side, this is a great way to loosen up and just plan to be a mess. If you need some ridiculousness in your relationship, this is a great way to go (unless you’re good at it--if you’re a pro, think of something you both suck at, and try to do THAT together for laughs).
In-home Spa Date. Cut up cucumbers for your eyes, get sensual smelling bubbles, light candles, pour some wine, and get cozy in the tub. Enjoy some relaxation together! After the bath, take turns giving each other massages, and let the night take you wherever it does….
Virtual Concert & Dance Date. There are tons of live concerts that were recorded and are accessible through Netflix or other streaming services. Pick a band you enjoy, get some snacks, and enjoy the show together! You can dance, sit down and chat, dance again….HAVE FUN!
What kinds of date-nights have you been having? I’m always excited for more ideas! If you try any of these, let me know how it goes!